Venus in Pisces and Mars in Virgo: Opposite Signs

Venus in Pisces: what you are drawn to

Venus is the placement that answers what attracts you and how you show affection, and it is a far better guide to somebody's love life than their Sun sign. With Venus in Pisces you are drawn to gentleness and imagination. Somebody kind, who is not hard work.

You show affection by merging: taking on the other person's feelings, plans and problems. What you need in order to feel loved is tenderness, and somebody who does not take advantage of the openness, and the thing that reliably puts you off is harshness, and anybody who is contemptuous of feeling. That last one is worth knowing, because the turn-off is usually more consistent across a lifetime than the attraction.

Mars in Virgo: how you go after it

Mars is the other half: how you pursue, how you argue, and what you want physically. With Mars in Virgo you chase by being useful, and by noticing what nobody else noticed.

You fight with specifics, accurately, which is worse than shouting. What you want is attentiveness, and getting it right. And the way it gets stuck is criticising, when what you meant was helping, which is the specific failure mode of this Mars and the thing most worth watching for in yourself.

The angle between them, and why it matters

Pisces and Virgo are opposite each other, which is 180 degrees apart, an opposition. This is the part that makes the combination more than two separate placements, and it is the part almost every page about Venus and Mars leaves out.

Directly across the wheel. The thing you are drawn to and the way you pursue it are opposites, which produces a push and pull inside one person: you want what you are not, and you chase it in a way that is the opposite of what would attract it.

The cost attached: it is the most visible of the configurations from outside, and the one most likely to produce a pattern of being attracted to people who are wrong for you in a consistent and recognisable way.

Water and Earth are different elements, so even where the angle is easy there is a genuine difference in material between what you want and how you go about getting it.

What this actually looks like

In practice: somebody drawn to gentleness and imagination. Somebody kind, who is not hard work, who pursues by being useful, and by noticing what nobody else noticed. Because the two are at odds, there is often a gap between the kind of person you are drawn to and the kind of approach you actually make, and that gap is where most of the trouble lives.

The argument version is worth thinking about separately. You fight with specifics, accurately, which is worse than shouting, and you need tenderness, and somebody who does not take advantage of the openness. Those do not sit together easily, and the usual result is arguments that end without the thing you actually needed having been said.

What to do with it

1. Check it against your actual history rather than against how you would like to be. Venus and Mars are descriptions of a pattern, and the pattern is in what you have done.
2. Watch for criticising, when what you meant was helping. That is the specific way this Mars goes wrong and it is the most actionable thing on this page.
3. Say what you need out loud. Venus in Pisces needs tenderness, and somebody who does not take advantage of the openness, and nobody can supply that by inference.
4. Stop treating the friction as a flaw. This configuration produces people who are good at relationships precisely because it made them think about it early.

Where to read next

Venus in Pisces in full and Mars in Virgo in full cover each placement on its own. Venus opposition Mars covers the aspect itself, for anybody whose Venus and Mars are close enough in degree for it to count properly rather than merely being that many signs apart.

Which houses these two fall in is the part that makes it personal, and that needs a birth time. Here is how to find yours.