Venus in Aquarius and Mars in Leo: Opposite Signs

Venus in Aquarius: what you are drawn to

Venus is the placement that answers what attracts you and how you show affection, and it is a far better guide to somebody's love life than their Sun sign. With Venus in Aquarius you are drawn to originality. Somebody who thinks for themselves and is not performing a role.

You show affection by treating a partner as a friend and an equal before anything else. What you need in order to feel loved is independence, and not to be absorbed, and the thing that reliably puts you off is possessiveness, and the expectation of constant togetherness. That last one is worth knowing, because the turn-off is usually more consistent across a lifetime than the attraction.

Mars in Leo: how you go after it

Mars is the other half: how you pursue, how you argue, and what you want physically. With Mars in Leo you chase with confidence and a certain amount of theatre.

You fight proudly, and the injury is usually to the pride rather than the thing itself. What you want is to be wanted visibly, and enthusiastically. And the way it gets stuck is needing the response, and going quiet if it does not come, which is the specific failure mode of this Mars and the thing most worth watching for in yourself.

The angle between them, and why it matters

Aquarius and Leo are opposite each other, which is 180 degrees apart, an opposition. This is the part that makes the combination more than two separate placements, and it is the part almost every page about Venus and Mars leaves out.

Directly across the wheel. The thing you are drawn to and the way you pursue it are opposites, which produces a push and pull inside one person: you want what you are not, and you chase it in a way that is the opposite of what would attract it.

The cost attached: it is the most visible of the configurations from outside, and the one most likely to produce a pattern of being attracted to people who are wrong for you in a consistent and recognisable way.

Air and Fire are different elements, so even where the angle is easy there is a genuine difference in material between what you want and how you go about getting it.

What this actually looks like

In practice: somebody drawn to originality. Somebody who thinks for themselves and is not performing a role, who pursues with confidence and a certain amount of theatre. Because the two are at odds, there is often a gap between the kind of person you are drawn to and the kind of approach you actually make, and that gap is where most of the trouble lives.

The argument version is worth thinking about separately. You fight proudly, and the injury is usually to the pride rather than the thing itself, and you need independence, and not to be absorbed. Those do not sit together easily, and the usual result is arguments that end without the thing you actually needed having been said.

What to do with it

1. Check it against your actual history rather than against how you would like to be. Venus and Mars are descriptions of a pattern, and the pattern is in what you have done.
2. Watch for needing the response, and going quiet if it does not come. That is the specific way this Mars goes wrong and it is the most actionable thing on this page.
3. Say what you need out loud. Venus in Aquarius needs independence, and not to be absorbed, and nobody can supply that by inference.
4. Stop treating the friction as a flaw. This configuration produces people who are good at relationships precisely because it made them think about it early.

Where to read next

Venus in Aquarius in full and Mars in Leo in full cover each placement on its own. Venus opposition Mars covers the aspect itself, for anybody whose Venus and Mars are close enough in degree for it to count properly rather than merely being that many signs apart.

Which houses these two fall in is the part that makes it personal, and that needs a birth time. Here is how to find yours.