Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Aquarius: A Square

Venus in Scorpio: what you are drawn to

Venus is the placement that answers what attracts you and how you show affection, and it is a far better guide to somebody's love life than their Sun sign. With Venus in Scorpio you are drawn to depth. Somebody with something underneath, and no interest in small talk.

You show affection by total attention, and by letting somebody see what nobody else does. What you need in order to feel loved is to be trusted completely, and to be able to trust completely, and the thing that reliably puts you off is lightness, and anybody who keeps it casual on purpose. That last one is worth knowing, because the turn-off is usually more consistent across a lifetime than the attraction.

Mars in Aquarius: how you go after it

Mars is the other half: how you pursue, how you argue, and what you want physically. With Mars in Aquarius you chase unconventionally, and often by becoming friends first for a long time.

You fight by detaching and becoming reasonable, which is maddening. What you want is freedom, and a partner who does not need constant reassurance. And the way it gets stuck is going cerebral when what is needed is a feeling, which is the specific failure mode of this Mars and the thing most worth watching for in yourself.

The angle between them, and why it matters

Scorpio and Aquarius are three signs apart, which is 90 degrees apart, a square. This is the part that makes the combination more than two separate placements, and it is the part almost every page about Venus and Mars leaves out.

The friction one. What attracts you and how you chase it pull in different directions, so you repeatedly want somebody you are badly equipped to pursue, or pursue in a way that puts off exactly the people you want.

The cost attached: it is tiring, and it is also the configuration most likely to produce somebody who is genuinely good at relationships, because it forced the question early.

Water and Air are different elements, so even where the angle is easy there is a genuine difference in material between what you want and how you go about getting it.

What this actually looks like

In practice: somebody drawn to depth. Somebody with something underneath, and no interest in small talk, who pursues unconventionally, and often by becoming friends first for a long time. Because the two are at odds, there is often a gap between the kind of person you are drawn to and the kind of approach you actually make, and that gap is where most of the trouble lives.

The argument version is worth thinking about separately. You fight by detaching and becoming reasonable, which is maddening, and you need to be trusted completely, and to be able to trust completely. Those do not sit together easily, and the usual result is arguments that end without the thing you actually needed having been said.

What to do with it

1. Check it against your actual history rather than against how you would like to be. Venus and Mars are descriptions of a pattern, and the pattern is in what you have done.
2. Watch for going cerebral when what is needed is a feeling. That is the specific way this Mars goes wrong and it is the most actionable thing on this page.
3. Say what you need out loud. Venus in Scorpio needs to be trusted completely, and to be able to trust completely, and nobody can supply that by inference.
4. Stop treating the friction as a flaw. This configuration produces people who are good at relationships precisely because it made them think about it early.

Where to read next

Venus in Scorpio in full and Mars in Aquarius in full cover each placement on its own. Venus square Mars covers the aspect itself, for anybody whose Venus and Mars are close enough in degree for it to count properly rather than merely being that many signs apart.

Which houses these two fall in is the part that makes it personal, and that needs a birth time. Here is how to find yours.