Love & Relationships
Venus in Pisces is drawn to gentleness and imagination. Somebody kind, who is not hard work, and Mars in Cancer goes after it indirectly. You get close and wait to be invited the rest of the way. The two signs are four signs apart, which is what decides whether the wanting and the chasing agree.
Venus is the placement that answers what attracts you and how you show affection, and it is a far better guide to somebody's love life than their Sun sign. With Venus in Pisces you are drawn to gentleness and imagination. Somebody kind, who is not hard work.
You show affection by merging: taking on the other person's feelings, plans and problems. What you need in order to feel loved is tenderness, and somebody who does not take advantage of the openness, and the thing that reliably puts you off is harshness, and anybody who is contemptuous of feeling. That last one is worth knowing, because the turn-off is usually more consistent across a lifetime than the attraction.
Mars is the other half: how you pursue, how you argue, and what you want physically. With Mars in Cancer you chase indirectly. You get close and wait to be invited the rest of the way.
You fight by withdrawing, which the other person often does not notice is a fight. What you want is closeness, and to feel safe before anything else. And the way it gets stuck is sulking rather than saying it, which is the specific failure mode of this Mars and the thing most worth watching for in yourself.
Pisces and Cancer are four signs apart, which is 120 degrees apart, a trine. This is the part that makes the combination more than two separate placements, and it is the part almost every page about Venus and Mars leaves out.
Same element, which makes this the smoothest of the combinations. The attraction and the pursuit are made of the same material and reinforce each other, so romance tends to feel natural rather than effortful.
The cost attached: no pressure to develop. A trine does not make you work at anything, which is comfortable and leaves a gap where the skill would have been.
| Venus in Pisces | Mars in Cancer | |
|---|---|---|
| What it covers | What attracts you | How you pursue it |
| Element | Water | Water |
| Mode | Mutable | Cardinal |
| Ruled by | Neptune and Jupiter | the Moon |
| At its best | By merging: taking on the other person's feelings, plans and problems | Indirectly. You get close and wait to be invited the rest of the way |
| Where it goes wrong | Harshness, and anybody who is contemptuous of feeling puts you off | Sulking rather than saying it |
Both signs are Water, which is the simplest version of this: the wanting and the chasing are made of the same material and they do not argue with each other.
In practice: somebody drawn to gentleness and imagination. Somebody kind, who is not hard work, who pursues indirectly. You get close and wait to be invited the rest of the way. Because the two work together, what you want and what you do about it tend to point the same way, and people generally find you readable.
The argument version is worth thinking about separately. You fight by withdrawing, which the other person often does not notice is a fight, and you need tenderness, and somebody who does not take advantage of the openness. Those are compatible, which means conflict in your relationships tends to resolve rather than accumulate.
Venus in Pisces in full and Mars in Cancer in full cover each placement on its own. Venus trine Mars covers the aspect itself, for anybody whose Venus and Mars are close enough in degree for it to count properly rather than merely being that many signs apart.
Which houses these two fall in is the part that makes it personal, and that needs a birth time. Here is how to find yours.
Drawn to gentleness and imagination. Somebody kind, who is not hard work, pursuing indirectly. You get close and wait to be invited the rest of the way. The two signs are four signs apart, so the attraction and the pursuit work with each other.
Tenderness, and somebody who does not take advantage of the openness. It is put off by harshness, and anybody who is contemptuous of feeling.
By withdrawing, which the other person often does not notice is a fight.
Neither good nor bad. An easy angle makes you consistent, which is not the same as being well matched with any particular person.
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